A Wonderful Love

Who would have known, who could have guessed, that almost 16 years ago I met the wonderful man I now call my husband. It has been quite the journey for us. We met just after my 16th birthday. He was dating a friend of mine, and I remember fondly swooning over him. I watched how he treated her like gold, despite the way she treated him like crap. A few years later, they had a nasty break up, and while my friendship with her disintegrated, ours continued to blossom. He was there for me through a lot of the very difficult times in my life. Never one to judge, always supportive and willing to listen. I can honestly say that I don’t know where I would be today if it weren’t for him. He put me back together, and helped me heal from some things that would otherwise have torn me to pieces and left me a dribbling mess. Things that most people are lucky enough not to endure in their lifetimes — things too difficult for me to mention on such a public blog.

As someone who grew up without a support structure, his caring and unconditional friendship meant so very, very much to me. Even my high school friends were flaky, and seemed to be the type who could turn on you without a moments notice. Many of them betrayed me in more ways than one. Family was pretty much non-existent. My mother didn’t really know how to support herself, let alone a growing daughter. She loved me in her own way, but it wasn’t always enough.

He was always there, and he has never betrayed me. I have a deep faith that he never will in anyway. He even forgave me, when in ignorance, I betrayed and hurt him. I did not deserve his forgiveness, and I did a lot of groveling. He accepted it with a grace that most people would never be able to muster. I was young, stupid, and impetuous. Little did I realize then just how close I came to losing the best thing that ever happened to me.

When I was 19, he was even nice enough to let me move in with him. I started college and did not have a driver’s license. The college I was going to was almost 2 hours by bus from my mothers home. It was a mere 45 minutes from his. That, as they say, was that. It was kind of an odd transition for both of us, but our friendship slowly grew into more. It was odd in the sense that we never really dated, just moved in together. What started as a blessedly wonderful friendship became a loving, caring relationship. We knew each other so well, that it was a good start. We didn’t play any of those mind games that some couples do at the start of a new relationship. We couldn’t, because each of us knew better. We had seen each other through many ups and downs. We were best friends at that point. Who better to be with than the person who is your best friend. We had our moments in the beginning. I am a Leo and he is a Scorpio. It was rough sometimes, but we always came back to each other, learned from what happened, and grew strong.

Five years ago, today, we were married. I am a very lucky woman, I married my best friend. Our five years of marriage have had their share of ups and downs as well. We have guided each other through a lot, and continue to grow together. To this day he is always the number one person in my corner — my biggest fan. He cheers me on, celebrates my victories with me, encourages me to be a better person, is brutally honest when I need him to be, and even holds and comforts me when I am sad and need to cry. He is my everything and I am most thankful that I have him in my life. I just cannot imagine life without him. I am a better person because of him, and I am whole thanks to him.

To my dear husband: I love you more than anything else. Words cannot express just how much. I hope you read this, and that you are touched and full of love on this, our day. I don’t always get a chance to thank you for everything you have done for me over the last 16 years. Know that I appreciate you, am thankful for you, and love you with all that I am. Happy anniversary.

 

June 5, 2004

June 5, 2004

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4 Comments

  1. Harriet said,

    June 5, 2009 at 8:29 am

    Happy Anniversary to you both. I hope this day is as special as you can make it, and that the coming year brings you everything you wish for yourselves, and more!

  2. June 5, 2009 at 3:26 pm

    Happy Anniversary!

  3. Tina M. said,

    June 5, 2009 at 9:36 pm

    You guys make me smile just looking at you. Congratulations and happy anniversary!

  4. Cherie said,

    June 5, 2009 at 11:42 pm

    I chanced upon your blog… congratulations! it was indeed a long but really sweet 16 years.


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